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How Would You Answer These Tough Questions?Gay and lesbian couples are faced with some pretty tough questions when they have children. We'd like your thoughts on how you'd handle some of the tough questions. How will you answer them? Question of the MonthHow would you answer this question? Answers:Because both of your mommies loved you so much they decided to both help you grow up. I would first explain to my daughter that her mama and I love each other very much and we wanted a child to share our love with. Then I would take out the two books we bought her that explains the different types of families that are made. Well, like most other families you have two parents, the difference is you have two dads. We love and provide for you just as a Mom and Dad would and want you to know that it is ok to have two daddies or two mommies, as long as they love you and provide for you. You have two daddies who love you more than the world itself. Some kids don't have any daddies--now don't you feel special to have not one, but two daddies? Well, Sweetheart, families come with all types of people we love. Some families have two mommies or two daddies and a lot of families have one mommy and one daddy or just one mommy or just one daddy. In all of these families you have someone who loves you with all their heart. You have two daddies that love you very much, more than anything in the whole world. It does not matter which one you have, it only matters that you know you are loved. I suppose if my child asked me a question like that I would say something to the effect that all families are a little different - some have a mommy and a daddy, or a mommy and no daddy (or vice versa), or a grandma/aunt/older sibling, etc. And in our family, we have two mommies. I'd most likely, too, ask them to think about their friends at school-- as a teacher I know there are lots of different people raising children out there. Sometimes children get the impression -- from various sources (literature, TV, etc.) that all families have mom, dad, two kids and a dog... but if you encourage them to think about it, they can see how different every one is. And how those differences aren't really as bad as some people think. Mother nature likes things to be different. All people are different and all families are different. Some families have just one mommy or daddy, some have two mommies or two daddies and some have a mommy and a daddy. All people and all families are special...just like you. You have two mommies because your mommies love each other and wanted you very much. So we prayed and God blessed us with the gift of you! You have two daddies because you were loved very much by your papa and I. We were not able to bring you into this world without the help of a very special lady. So we prayed to God and asked him to help us find a special lady so that we could have you. We wanted you because you papa and I have so much love to give, and we knew that you would be the one we wanted to give it to! Because two women love you just as much as two men and or a man and a woman could love you. Because God makes many different kinds of families: 2 Daddies, 2 Mommies, a Mommy and a daddy, a single Mom or Dad. The family you were born in to is the one God chose for you because you are so special. Because your mother and I love each other very much. We live together and we want to share our home with you and your sister. So we asked the doctor to help us have you. We're very happy with you two. This is our answer to our two kids that we adopted: Because your birth mom and dad couldn't take care of you and the judge wanted someone who could love you and take care of both of you. So she chose me and mom and she let us adopt you too because you are special. We need your helpWhat difficult questions (pertaining to gay or lesbian parenting) have you been asked? Let us know so that we can build this page... |
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